Hey L,
Real talk... How often have you argued with your spouse about sex?
I think for the average couple (married or not) it's a pretty common scenario. For some, it might be an infrequent occurrence. But for others it feels like the "number one issue" in their marriage.
And here's the funny thing. While these heated discussions may feel like sex is the central issue, usually the real problem lies well beneath the surface.
Problems like...
- The pain of rejection.
- The lack of intimacy and attention.
- The built-up resentment from neglect and betrayal.
- The perceived indifference.
In other words, the real pain that either or both people feel is never addressed because it's easier to get angry or go silent than brave the turbulent waters of uncomfortable dialogue.
I see men do this all the time, especially those who struggle with porn.
They don't want to "rock the boat even more." So rather than seizing an opportunity to better their relationship, they further threaten it through silence and avoidance.
And that's the subject of this week's post from my good friend and author Jeff Borkoski.
Check it out here and let us know what you think in the comments.
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